A final kiss can be a deeply emotional goodbye—but could it also pose a health risk?
Dr. Viktor Ivanovik, a Moldovan physician with over 300,000 TikTok followers, recently went viral for a heartfelt but cautionary message: avoid kissing deceased loved ones.
In his video, Dr. Ivanovik explained that harmful bacteria may remain on the body after death—especially if the person died from an infectious illness. Though transmission is rare, it’s not impossible, especially with close physical contact.
His warning struck a nerve. Some praised his concern for public health. Others felt the advice clashed with a cherished tradition of parting with dignity and intimacy.
Balancing Grief with Caution
Across cultures, touching the body—such as holding a hand or kissing the forehead—is a time-honored way to say goodbye. It provides closure, comfort, and a final connection to those we love.
But during public health crises, like the COVID-19 pandemic, experts have urged people to reconsider these practices—not out of fear, but to reduce potential risks, even if they’re small.
When an outbreak is active, even minimal-risk activities are treated with added precaution.
What Do Health Experts Say?
Under normal circumstances, the risk of infection from a deceased person is considered low—especially when death results from a non-contagious illness.
However, in certain cases, experts strongly advise avoiding physical contact. These include:
- Tuberculosis
- Hepatitis B or C
- Viral hemorrhagic fevers (such as Ebola)
- Severe bacterial infections
In such instances, the body can remain infectious for a short time after death. For grieving families, this can present a painful but necessary barrier to the usual rituals.
If there’s uncertainty, it’s best to consult a physician or licensed funeral director. They can provide tailored advice based on the individual’s cause of death and medical history.
Safer, Meaningful Ways to Say Goodbye
If you’re concerned about health—or if safety guidelines restrict touching—there are many thoughtful alternatives that still honor your loved one:
- Place a flower gently in their hands or beside them
- Light a candle and hold a quiet moment of reflection
- Write a farewell letter and leave it with them
- Create a tribute at home using photos, keepsakes, and their favorite music
- Record a voice message or video talking about what they meant to you
- Gather loved ones to share memories in a circle of remembrance
These small gestures can be just as powerful and healing as a final kiss, without the potential health concerns.
Final Thoughts: Grief, Love, and Informed Choices
At its core, this isn’t just a medical discussion—it’s about how we say goodbye with grace and meaning.
Grief is personal. So is love. Whether you choose to kiss your loved one goodbye or honor them from a distance, what truly matters is the intention and the love behind the act.
By making compassionate, informed decisions, we can protect ourselves and others while still paying tribute to those we’ve lost in a way that feels right and respectful.
Disclaimer: This article is for general information only. It is not a substitute for professional medical or funeral advice. Always consult a healthcare provider or licensed mortuary professional with questions about safe farewell practices.